The XY ... needs a "battle."
A battle to resolve a challenge of any type.

For XY, competition is embraced.
It is → Fun. ←

The XX ... is drawn to building mutually insightful relationships that unify.
Common goal collaboration based on trust and caring.

For XX, collaboration is embraced.
It is → Fun. ←

The XY ... needs a "win." The identification of "one better than the other."
Unless he's "metro". Or more. Or less. Maybe.

The XX needs a "win, win." The identification of "a jointly chosen goal."
Unless she's "cosmo". Or more. Or less. Maybe.


Both XY and XX draw upon competition, winning, collaboration, caring. These dimensions are not unique or alien to either gender. Either can emphasize any of the behaviors and outcomes to achieve their goals. However, by default, if only 2 out of the 4 above can be chosen, the XY will elect to compete to win. The XX will elect to collaborate and nurture.

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Men are asked these questions by men differently than women might ask these questions to women. And, they will perceive these questions and respond to these questions differently as well.

THE QUESTIONS! (for males)

The Misunderstanding

Q 1: Have fun today? Tell me about it.

Q 2: Between you and me, what do you think of when you think about yourself? When Alone? When with Others? When with Men? When with Women? With anybody that comes to mind.

Q 3: Do you ever consider your self, The Me that is you, distinct from you as a man? Or, is "maleness" an intrinsic quality of you? If you consider yourself differently than "intrinsically male" how do you consider yourself? What is important to you about you?

Q 4: When with your male friends (pick any) do you consider them as something separate or distinct from the dimension within which they are "intrinsic males?" If so, how do you regard them? Anything goes.

Q 5: After a big day, one that took a lot of energy, etc., how do you chill out? What would be a great way to wind up relaxing? Relax by yourself, with another, or with others (multi?) Would you wind up most chilled out if you spent your "time out" with another woman, another male, a dog, whatever, doesn't matter?

Q 6: While I (an XY) may find you (another XY) inspirational, practical, powerful, positive, and often unexpectedly insightful ... it is also true that we do not know each other well. I may believe I "get you well enough" ... but perhaps I don't. It is highly likely, actually, that I don't.

Do you experience me as "not aware" of the emotional messaging that either you and I are communicating with each other? This is a perceived "Emotional / IQ " question.

Q 7: Do you have any questions for me? For other males? For other females?

Q 8: Do you find that you or other males wait, delay, or postpone asserting comments / points / positions until you / they feel "allowed?" "Allowed" may not be the correct word, but what I am getting to is perhaps "permitted" or "acceptable" or "the right time." Why or why not? What is nearly the first reaction that came to mind?

Q 9: We are 40-50 years into the "gender equality" movement that began in the 60's. That movement was a continuation of a women's right movement that began perhaps a hundred years earlier. Why do you think we are where we are today? Where do you think we are today? Are we where you would like us to be today? Where do you want "us" to be?

Q 10: Probing misunderstood (or ignored) communication - Does "Yes" mean "Yes" or does "Yes" mean "Maybe?" Does "No" mean "No" or does "No" mean "Maybe?" How often each?

Q 11: What has been on your mind this past few weeks? Pick three.

Q 12: How've you been? Great? Me too. Pretty good. ... Anything been concerning you lately?

Q 13: What questions would you pose that are more relevant than these?

Q 14: Do you consider your hair (how it looks, etc.,) as an integral part of The You? The Me?

Q 15: Are there other traits or aspects of your body that you consider to be important components that "define" or "feature" or "brand" who or what you are?

Q 16: Do these last two questions seem like they are ridiculous questions to even ask?

Q 17: When you encounter someone or a group that wants what you have, and insists on having it, and you disagree, is your instinct to try to work it out, talk it over, or to let them have it? Do you take a different approach, or have a different goal? When "negotiating", is your strategy one that emphasizes "fairness", or one that emphasizes "control?" A different emphasis? Do you look for the "win-win", or are you more interested in "I win."

Q 18: What are you actually communicating when you smile? What are you thinking? Do you think about it? Is it where you are, where you want to be, or is it where you want who you are interacting with to be?

Q 19: How do you perceive harassment? Often? When you are aware of harassment towards you, is that significant to you? How do you react / feel / cope? Examples?

Q 20: Let's turn to intoxication. For this question, alcohol consumption. Drinking. Answer considering the question asked from your own perspective or habits. Only.

Let's say you have your choice of various drinks. Beers. Wine. Mixed drinks (cocktails). Even hard liquors, such as bourbons, etc. Your choices are solely anything you prefer. Its sometime during the day where intoxication is AOK. End of the day, whatever. It is possible that when you decide to have a drink, multiple aspects are going on at the same time. You may or may not be thirsty. You may want to relax, "take the edge off", and alcohol may help move things in the right direction. You may simply enjoy the taste, texture, temperature of the drink. And, of course, the differing drinks represent differing amounts of alcohol in the mix you are enjoying.

Overall, what seems to govern how much of your drink that you consume. Thirst? Taste? Fullness due to volume consumed? Fun with friends? The degree of intoxication you may feel? What determines how much you will actually drink? Do you think about it at all?

Q 21: Do you wait until allowed? Why?

From a male's perspective, consider a football game between two opposing sides that respect each other and want to play the game with each other. Which side waits for permission of the other? If one side feels compelled to wait till allowed, which side wins? Which behavior generates respect?: The one waiting to be allowed before doing, or the the one that is simply doing?

What is "The Bell Curve" male's perspective? Your perspective? Is yours the default male perspective?

Q 22: Approaching fatherhood in a few different ways - Regarding your relationship with your child (one that you either sired or adopted):

• How do you perceive the relationship?
  
  
• Are you two different people, father and child?
  
  
• Are you a "We"? , Separate but One Together. A "We"?
  
  
• When making decisions for your child, are you making them as if making them for you? Do you see yourselves as separate, or as one?
  
  
• When the mother was pregnant, Separate or as One?
  
  
• Many women insist that decisions regarding pregnancies belong solely to them as a right to manage their bodies. How do you feel about that? Consider as many aspects as you'd like.

Q 23: Who have you touched today?

Areas to introduce from a male perspective (David Apollo thinks he can start these, but he is probably actually clueless):

• Competition and/or/vs. Collaboration -
  
  
• Evolution and the Mechanisms of Reproduction - It takes two, and results in "Another". The "other" is always different, but with similarities. Having to make it on its own will induce it to learn to survive and persist on its own. I'll challenge it and ask more than it thinks it can give. It will only be ready and able to survive when it can do so without me.
  
  Paternalism - the coach and mentor.
  
  A man in passion rides a horse that runs away with him.
  - Thomas Fuller, 1608 - 1661
  
  
• The Self -
  • A transvestite spends her entire life trying to look as feminine as possible and I have clearly spent mine celebrating my masculinity. - Vin Diesel.
    
    
• Having fun being Me
  
  Whether XX or XY, ConserveLiberty advocates that one embrace all that manifests itself.
  
  
  
  The Grand Tour: Season 2 Montage (1:57)
  In the case of XY males, ConserveLiberty advocates that XY males celebrate the hormonal gift of testosterone and all the other manifestations and consequences that unfold due to the influence of the Y chromosome on the way they have been built.
  
  To be male is a lifestyle that creates camaraderie among themselves.
  
  Take for example the depiction of males celebrating themselves and their cars in The Grand Tour. They are men's men just being themselves without having to apologize for it.
  
  
  
  How to be a REAL Man! - Ultra Spiritual Life episode 80 (1:57)
  XY males embracing themselves (The Cognitive Me) as they have been built. They are "men's men" and enjoy their love interests, such as libations like whiskey, spirits, and beer, premium cigars, sports, gambling and Vegas, cool cars, wicked bikes, man-food: steaks, ribs, burgers, bacon and BBQ, music like rock, metal, blues and Sinatra, classic guy flicks, and of course, beautiful women. They support the Military that defends them and believe that freedom is truly a privilege that should never be taken for granted.
  
  XY males that embrace themselves as they have been built brazenly defy those who attempting to censor their instincts as free-thinking, conscious minded adults. They acknowledge that their DNA made them the way they are. They will not bow to absurd notions and pressures of how the "politically correct" believe they should behave.
  
  Bottom Line: XY MALES DO NOT need to be saved from themselves!
  
  
  
  Is a way to a man's heart really through his stomache?
  
  
  
• Motivation
  • "Nobody gets out of here alive." - Observer
    "I'm not trying to get out of here." - David Apollo
    
    
• Athleticism. - Uniquely valued aspects of athleticism to males for males.
  • Dominance and Winning is an evolutionarily selected instinct that helps insure Resilient Persistence.
    
    
  • Note to author - include GoPro examples of Resilience in the context of "reaching high in a quest for extraordinary achievement, respect for risk, dominance of will over fear, and fun."
  
  
• Boundary setting
  • How an XY copes with harassment - A personal ad posted online
    
    
  • A Realistic Plan for World Peace - A personal ad posted online
    
    
  • Others to be added.
    
    
• Location and product descriptions (an example):
  
  While neither "style" of narrating locations, products, direction to locations, etc., is unique to a single gender, it is often one's experience that a particular "style" is "stereotypical" for a gender. The ability to comprehend the narrative styles is often dependent on the dimorphic "default gender dial settings" for the component tapestry filters. Which Sexual Dimorphism Personality Spectrum Tapestry style do you think is represented below?
  
  
  • "Thanks for choosing to spend the near future with this Special Handmade Ale. We at the Brewery dig this IPA in a big way. We have been making it this way since 1994 and hope you will feel as good about drinking it as we do about brewing it. We get to enjoy about 16 days with each batch. From the moment of conception at the Mash Tun, through gestation in the vast expanse of the Fermentation Cellar to the daily C-Section performed in the Filtration Department; all the way to the moment of matriculation into Glass and Kegs on the alter of the two Filling Lines when it finally moves out and Gets a Job - whereupon we clean the crud out of its room and start all over again. You, however, will only enjoy the company of this Ale for a few minutes and then a while longer as it insinuates itself into your Brain and Liver on its round-trip back to the Ocean of Lost Beers forever. Enjoy it while you can and don't worry - We'll make more."
  
  
• Individual Persistence to Live -
  
  
  
  
  
  

The Conservation of Liberty to Be What We Have Been Built to Be recognizes that The We has been built Sexually Dimorphically.

Consider thoughtfully.